UnderCover Waitress: Outing Bad Tippers Advice

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Outing Bad Tippers Advice

With all the brouhaha about Victoria Liss outing the wrong Andrew Meyer, you'd think the nastiness of posting people's names online next to the bad tips they left would be over with. And you'd be wrong.

I'm not going to link to everything; you will have to take my word for it. The Lousy Tipper Database lets servers and other tipped employees post as much information as they dare, including names, restaurant, city and state, amount of bill and tip, and anything else you want to type in, such as personal insults. This database comes complete with a search function so you can hunt out every other John Doe who tipped poorly and assume they are all one person. Grand fun if you have an excessive amount of bile to spew.

If, like Andrew Meyer of Dallas, Texas, you have been wrongly accused of leaving a small to no tip, you can argue about it on the Lousy Tipper Database.

Oh, and they have rules. No complaining about old people leaving bad tips. However, I could not find the birthday cut-off date.

The 15% site is not so bad. While people can post pictures, the names are not in the pictures of the receipts. As a matter of fact, there are postings about tipping advice that you may find useful. I don't agree necessarily agree with all of them; just noting that the site owner offers his own advice.

People need a place to air their grievances and to complain. For waitresses, that place is not usually at work. On the floor we perform emotional labor. That means you get to be rude and we have to smile and be nice and accommodating. Eating out is an abuser's dream come true. Waitresses have managed hearts. 

I think we should visit forums, go out with friends, and complain to our heart's content. Names or the name of a customer's employer, however, are off-limits. Especially online.

From a diner's point of view, it's hard to enjoy a nice evening out for dinner when you are terrified of the waitress calling the dogs on you the next day because you didn't reward her generously enough for her exceptional service.

My advice to those who wish to relax and enjoy good food and good service: Dine incognito and pay cash. If the service is good, tip 20%. Please.


  1. A good rule of thumb! Although none of this really applies to Morocco where there really is no standard of tipping like in the states. In truth, tipping here completely stresses me out.

  2. Tipping in the states is it's own thing, which is why waitresses here despise waiting on foreigners. It's not prejudice; it is fear that they do not understand our tipping practices or why. I could write a book about the debate whether we should change our tipping practices here. Lots of arguments on both sides, and compelling commentary on the psychology of the whole thing.


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